Tuesday, January 19, 2016

TMI Tuesday: January 19, 2016 ~ Analyze Your Sex-Life

I'm not as grey as these two but I'm on my way!
(photo via TMI)
1. What are your sexual strengths and weaknesses?
I'm a giver. I take pleasure in giving pleasure. That's a strength, right? My weakness is that I equate sex with love, hence my self esteem issues arising from the infrequent sex I have with my wife.

2. As a couple, what are your sexual strengths and weaknesses?
I'm not sure how to answer this. When in the right mood my wife will do her best to please me, but she can just as likely not be in the mood to bother ie I have to do all the work and get myself off in the process ie if she cums and I don't that's my problem. My problem is that I can't just cum for my own selfish pleasure, I need her to be 'into it' too (otherwise I may as well just masturbate on my own).

3. How do you make intimacy a priority in a relationship?
We tried 'Date Nights' but those fell by the wayside fairly quickly (she couldn't commit ie she was always scheduling important business meetings/events on Date Night because she said she couldn't help it ie business was her priority). I have felt for a long time that we haven't been making intimacy a priority. And by 'we' I mean 'she'. I have tried all manner of things, often to no avail.

4. How has your sex life changed in the last five years?
It has slowed down immeasurably. Immeasurably because I don't keep a spreadsheet or calendar to track it. But yes, we have a lot less sex now than we used (although it has picked up in the past two months, I'm not sure why). The only 'tracking' I do is via the We Had Sex label/tag on this blog.

5. Has blogging helped your sex life? How?
It has not improved my sex life with my wife, but it has improved the way I deal with it. By venting here I seem to be able to keep a lid on it, and not do something rash like have an affair. (But don't let that stop you from emailing me privately ladies, with those naughty selfies!)

Bonus: Has loneliness or emotional hunger ever caused you to “fall in love”?
I'm not sure about Love but I developed some Very Intense Feelings for a woman I met online, when I felt very lonely and emotionally deprived. We never met in person but we cammed a few times, and spoke all the time via Facebook. I guess it was faux love, but it felt very real at the time. She was 100% honest and real, but I see now how easy it is for lonely people to fall victim to online predators. (I still have contact with her, via FetLife of all places!)

Double Bonus: Did you miss the post about my wife and I going to The Swingers Club? or the sex we had after?

Triple Bonus: I once cammed with another woman I'd met on Facebook (not the one I just mentioned above). She was at work in an office like this and started flashing me...! 
would this pic be better if you saw it from my P.O.V. ?
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