Friday, March 18, 2016

Sammi talks Porn, I respond

On a porn set, getting the light readings right before filming starts
(although most porn these days seems to be shot on handycam, in natural light) 
I tipped you off to what a great sex blogger Sammi was last week, when I exerpted one of her erotic writings. Here's another excerpt from another post, this time non-erotic - unless hearing real women telling you how they love porn turns you on! Actually I suppose there's a kernel of that for me too. Sammi is one of many female sex bloggers that ... er ... um ... how do I articulate this properly?

I'm not a cyber stalker who get's aroused by female sex bloggers (unless they've posted a story that's obviously meant to be erotic) but I do get very... jealous? Is that the right word? Probably not. Shall we say I covet their sexuality, in the sense that I wish my wife was like them. I suffer from that feeling that the grass is always greener on the other side. "Why can't my wife be more like them?" I often ask myself, when I think back to how sexually free my wife used to be - compared to what she is now. How come these other women continued their journey, their pursuit of greater sexual pleasure, their deeper discovery of what they liked and what they didn't - but not my wife?

Was it me? Did I do something wrong at some stage of our 20 year partnership to crush her sexual spirit? In my own mind I believe I was open, honest, and keen to explore with her - but is it possible I've done something to contribute to extinguishing her libido? But then again, as I've noted already in this blog, she does still have a libido. She loves her dirty stories, and I presume the self pleasuring that goes along with it (god forbid she's having affairs), she just doesn't want sex with me.

Anyway, here's what Sammi said about Porn back in January, with me adding my 2¢ worth after...
I love porn. The first time I really watched it was in college, when you usually had to go to the video store’s back room to pick out a title. It could be a bit intimidating at times. I remember Video USA’s room was small, and it wasn’t too obvious when you’d go back to browse the walls of VHS boxes, 90% of them with Ginger Lynn’s face on the cover. Tristate Video was the worst – the porn was sectioned off and had a door that creaked like crazy when you’d open it, announcing to the entire store that you were going to be watching people fucking that night. There’d always be some guy in there, too, who would leave as soon as he saw a woman walk in...
Ah yes, the creaky swing door. They all seemed to have them - I heard it was to stop the perves thinking they could sneak in there unnoticed and do creepy things. Y'know, like jacking off - ewww! Sammi must be a generation behind me, because my wife would never be caught dead in the porno section of a video store. Getting her to watch one was a mission too - she hated them and said they were gross. And yet decades later she's reading about white women being gangraped by well hung black men, and turning into cock crazy sluts who take it up the ass and love it. My how times change.
Porn is, of course, all over the internet, and I like to watch it online. The variety is amazing, and you can find what you want to watch a lot easier than at the video store. There’s often a lot of crap to sift through, and sometimes I’ve found it worthwhile to pay for membership. I don’t only watch online, though – I do a lot of DVD reviews so I get to see a lot on that media. I think with online porn I’ve got a better chance of watching what I want to see – DVDs can often be a real crapshoot.
To be honest I don't watch any DVD's anymore at all, for me it's all online porn now. A few years back when my wife was going through her 'I'll give it all a try' phase (this was when we saw a therapist about reigniting her libido) we watched some porn together one night. Knowing her erotic reading tastes I pulled up some 'Interracial' clips on YouPorn and we streamed those on our Big Screen TV via my iPad. Although she claimed to not like them much she did get aroused and blew me on the sofa, before mounting me reverse cowgirl style so she could ride me while she watched two black studs double team a big breasted blonde woman in all her holes. That video must have ticked all the boxes for my wife, based on her erotic reading choices, but it (watching porn together) never happened again*.
I watch porn quite a bit. Sexually, I’m a visual and aural person, and watching porn can be a real turn-on to masturbation or sex (I do love to read erotica, but it’s not the same). Not all porn turns me on – I prefer gangbangs and blowbangs, bondage, and a few other things, but I rarely watch women on women porn, or porn with a plot (I’ve never seen the point, as I fast forward to the action). I like to see and hear women who are really into the action in their scenes, and men who are equally enthusiastic.
Ditto Sammi, but of course since I'm a guy I love girl on girl action. But when it comes to plot I also either fast forward, or find a shorter clip to watch! I also love anal (but not that gape stuff) because it is the final taboo, right? I also like to hear enthusiastic women, but I'm turned off when they cross the line into that fake porno squealing that so many actresses fall back on. The best pornos are always the ones where you really believe they're having a decent fuck. Sure, we all know they're performing for the camera but some are better at hiding it than others. (Just like regular actors in regular films)
I think I get ideas from porn, although there’s a lot of things I watch in porn I doubt I’ll ever do...
If you want learn more about what Sammi thinks about porn then you can find the full complete text here, on her blog. As I said before, she's very insightful and a sex blogger well worth checking out.

*actually, it did happen one other time, with same results. She got aroused and we had lusty sex but later she claimed it didn't turn her on and she doesn't like porn. FYI - My wife does not consider the dirty stories she reads on Literotica to be porn. She says that's erotic fiction, not porn. 

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