Thursday, May 12, 2016

Kink of the Week: ~ Masturbation

Since May is Masturbation Month I thought I would write a post for the Kink of The Week blog. It's the first time I've participated in this meme so excuse me if I don't quite get it right on my first go. (And I'm supposed to attach a KOTW badge to my post but I don't know how, so answers in the comments below please). Okay, let's get to the fun stuff...

So, lets talk about you and masturbation. Are you a regular wanker? 
I am semi-regular but I plan do it more, for reasons I've explained here.

When did you first start masturbating? 
I really don't remember when I first started, but I'd guess I was about 13 or 14. I only became familiar with both the word and the concept at school, when other boys started talking about it (probably when an older kid started using "wanker" as an epithet) but I didn't know how it was done. I was having erections by then (stiffies!) but didn't know what to do with it. My mother used to tuck my sheets and blankets in quite tight so I initially tried slotting my stiff prick in between the sheet and the side of the mattress (after removing my pyjama bottoms, after going to bed), but as you can imagine this brought no relief. It felt good, but all that thrusting went nowhere ultimately. (Although I take some pride in my young mind finding a tightish vagina substitute, given that I had only a fleeting glimpse of a friend's father's Playboy when I was 12).

Was it a wonderful discovery or a shameful secret? 
I finally got it 'right' when I worked out how to do it ie grip your cock and jerk it up and down. This may seem obvious to everyone else, but as I said, I had no clue. My friends and I did not talk about it, and we especially did not discuss how to do it. I finally figured it out when my brain 'clicked' as a I observed an older boy making the jerking gesture as he called one of my friends a 'wanker'. When I got home from school I mimicked the handgrip, slid it down over my erection, gripped tighter, and commenced jerking my hand up and down. {BOOM!} {EUREKA!} I now had it sussed - finally I knew what older boys knew, and it felt goood. (Then came the {BOOM!}

Maybe you were bought up in an environment where you were taught that touching yourself was ‘devils play’, how did this effect you and your exploration of your self pleasure?
My parents never mentioned masturbation, let alone pass judgement on it, so it wasn't a problem. As an adolescent I knew I had to do it in secret, but of course being a young teenager I was at it all the time so I guess they knew. I would spend a long time in the shower, or on the toilet, and I was told off for both - but it was masked as criticism for using too much hot water or 'reading' too long.
I did a lot of 'exploring' too, which I'm not willing to share, but let's just say I was unafraid of doing anything as long as it felt good. 

Do you like to use sex toys when you masturbate? 
As a guy, there isn't much to choose from (an issue I blogged about here) but I did have a vibrating 'travel massager' that had 3 'feet' which I used to abuse by placing against my balls as I jacked off. I would use it infrequently ie only when I was having trouble 'finishing'. When we moved house 3 years ago it disappeared.

Maybe you have a favourite toy or maybe you prefer the joys of your own hand/fingers and nothing else.
I use my hand (no lube) but lately I've been getting annoyed that there isn't much for men aside from the Fleshlight. And even that requires you to jack it up and down your cock manually, which I think is unfair. Women have vibrators ie they can just switch it on and press it against their clit, the vibe does most of the work - so why isn't there something similar for men? A sex toy you can slip over your cock and then lie back and enjoy?

Does masturbation feature in your relationship? 
I'm a big fan of mutual masturbation, particularly since my wife seems to go off penetrative sex from time to time. I'm quite happy for us both to masturbate together and I enjoy cumming in her ass crack.

This would be sexier if they hadn't sped it up!
Is watching your partner getting off seriously hot or something that makes you uncomfortable?
I enjoy watching my wife pleasuring herself but it can 'go bad' when she starts to become self absorbed ie she moves away from me and is essentially masturbating solo ie I could not be in the room and she wouldn't even notice or care. I know one could argue she is 'in the zone' and I should let her be, but what I'm complaining of is not like that. Sometimes when I suggest mutual masturbation (as an alternative to sex, since she doesn't want to be penetrated) she seizes upon it and immediately starts jilling herself, and effectively tells me to do my thing on my side of the bed. This only happens if (and not always) she has been reading her dirty stories so I presume it's not me she's thinking of as she pleasures herself.
How do you feel about being watched?
I have no problem being watched by my wife and as I just mentioned, I'd be happy for her to be involved.

What do you think about when you masturbate? Is there a favourite, orgasm guaranteed, fantasy that you like to think about when you are reaching between your thighs? Do you like to watch porn, or maybe you prefer the stimulation of the written word?
I don't think about much when I masturbate, other than getting off. I watch porn clips on YouPorn or PornHub (same company, apparently) and I have a preference for solo women (masturbating with either toys of fingers), Anal, or the occasional anime. I do not (usually) imagine myself in the scene I'm watching, but that is what my wife thinks I do - which is why she doesn't like me masturbating. 
So I tend do it when she is not home (obviously) or asleep. Sometimes (25%?) I will read dirty stories on instead because I can't watch videos with the sound off, it just doesn't work for me. These are usually the titles my wife reads - I enjoy them too but I often veer off to 'Anal' or 'Loving Wives' since my tastes are slightly different from hers.

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  1. Thank you for joining in with Kink of the Week. I hope it is the first of many posts from you. The badge with the link above it is fine. Otherwise grab the badge code from the site and paste it into your post when you are html mode and it should show as an image link.

    I was thinking, with regards to your wife, maybe it would make you feel more involved if she read the 'dirty stories' to you, or you read to her a favourite passsage while she masturbated. Sharing fantasies like that can very hot and help you to learn what turns each other on.


    1. Thanks, I like your blog - it's a great inspiration for new post topics for me.

      We did used to read them together a looong time ago, in fact I was the one who introduced my wife to! It would seem I have reaped what I have sown!! She has a definite preference for reading them on her own now, although I recently (within the last six months) caught her in bed reading them on her iPad so I ate her out while she read them. She enjoyed that, but has spurned repeat offers.

    2. That is a shame.... maybe worth offering to read aloud to her or at least ask her to send you links to her favourites so you can see what ones are doing it for her then maybe you can try to incorporate some of those themes into things.


  2. Ps.. do you have a Twitter account? If so could you tweet at me so I can find you @mollysdailykiss

    1. No, but I have thought about it - I'll let you know!


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