In the process of recovering my own old posts via email I discovered some of hers. Like me, her old accounts have been terminated, and she seems to have disappeared from the internet. This is a damn shame since I consider her one of the best sex bloggers I've ever had the chance to read and follow. I'm reposting her old posts as a historical archive, and if she ever returns to blogging I'm happy to hand them back to her.
To be clear: the copyright on this work is hers, and remains with her - I didn't write it and I make no claim to it.
| Pervertically Virtuous posted: "Recently, The Frisky wrote about a new Facebook study that found more young women choose to keep their maiden names compared to older generations. Digging a little deeper, it turns out this isn't true: younger women may be keeping their names on their Fac" |
I always have a silent snarky LOL when I see women go the hyphenated* route in order to hold (tenuously) onto their feminist values. When Ms Jones marries Mr Smith she becomes Smith-Jones because taking his name would be wrong, but she wants to recognise their union. The funny thing is, Mr Jones usually stays Mr Jones - he rarely becomes Mr Smith-Jones. That's reserved for his wife and any children they may have.
I also LOL when high profile/'celebrity' women get married and take heir husbands surname. After many many years of establishing themselves and achieving their own success and become a defacto 'brand' identity (in the public's mind) they then throw it all away to take a new name. And then it's double LOL when X years later she splits from him and goes back to her own name.
When I married my wife there was no question of her taking my name. Like yourselves, we thought the idea ridiculous. My daughter has my surname, but that was only due to confusion between myself and my wife when we picked her name. I came up with the idea of giving her a new surname and we agreed on one, but... my wife thought we were discussing her middle name so when she filled out the birth certificate details that's what she did, together with my last name as our daughter' surname. No big deal, she looks like me anyway.
I know some hipsters who came up with an entirely new name as their collective surname, meaning they both sealed their marriage by ditching their old surnames picking a new one. Pretty cool, and something I'd also thought of when we get married, but my wife said she didn't want to throw away 20 years of establishing name recognition!
(*my apologies in advance to all readers with hyphenated surnames who are offended by this viewpoint)