Monday, August 1, 2016

Would You Rather Be a Porn Star Or a Prostitute?

This is not one of my old posts, but one by Pervertically Virtuous
In the process of recovering my own old posts via email I discovered some of hers. Like me, her old accounts have been terminated, and she seems to have disappeared from the internet. This is a damn shame since I consider her one of the best sex bloggers I've ever had the chance to read and follow. I'm reposting her old posts as a historical archive, and if she ever returns to blogging I'm happy to hand them back to her.
To be clear: the copyright on this work is hers, and remains with her - I didn't write it and I make no claim to it. 

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Pervertically Virtuous posted: "A prostitute. Without a doubt. "You should be in porn!" are words I've heard from countless men over the years. Men who had never gotten deep-throated, or experienced anal, or had group sex, or even simply had their cocks sucked by a woman who really lik"

recovered post by Pervertically Virtuous

Would You Rather Be a Porn Star Or a Prostitute?

by Pervertically Virtuous
Sex work is workA prostitute. Without a doubt.
"You should be in porn!" are words I've heard from countless men over the years. Men who had never gotten deep-throated, or experienced anal, or had group sex, or even simply had their cocks sucked by a woman who really likes sucking cock - until they met me. I don't blame them for thinking I should be a porn star: I'm hot, I love sex with many different partners, and I love doing all sorts of things sexually that you see in porn but that most women won't do. So it's logical to assume that I'd enjoy a porn career.
But I've thought about it, and I would never be a porn star.
No one's ever told me I should be a prostitute, but if I had to choose between those two types of sex work, I would definitely go for hooking. And by that I don't mean a streetwalker like the ones Chris Arnade shoots in Hunts Point in the Bronx. As a highly educated, White, middle-class, drug-free woman, I wouldn't be a streetwalker. I'd be a high-end escort who'd be her own pimp.
When thinking about this post, I googled "porn star or prostitute?" and found this question posed on another website with almost 200 responses. Most people said they would choose to be a porn star. They seemed to think that you're less likely to get STIs that way. That you're physically safer. That it pays better. That you get better control over who you work with (i.e. fuck). That you fuck hotter men. That you get better upward mobility.
But I think they're mistaken on almost all points. 
STIs. As a high-end hooker you can have a strict condom policy and there will be plenty of clients who will be happy to abide by that. As a porn star, you can't have a strict condom policy or you'd be out of work pretty much immediately. Sure, you and your partners get tested regularly, but I would venture to say that fucking regularly-tested people without a condom is more dangerous than fucking untested people with a condom. And apparently, I'm right. Someone did a study, and porn stars in LA have more STIs than legal brothel prostitutes in Nevada (who are required by law to use condoms). Who knew? Condoms actually work!
Money. I don't know everyone's rates, but if you look up what say Kink.com pays their models per shoot, it's $700-900 for a scene involving vaginal and oral sex, $900-1100 if you add anal on top of that, and $1100-1300 for a scene involving multiple guys with anal or double penetration. A high-end escort in NYC easily makes $1000 (and often more) for a session with one client which doesn't have to include anal. Based on this, it seems like hooking pays more than acting in porn for a lot less work.
Reputation. Perhaps because of the differences in legal status, porn seems to be somewhat more accepted by the general population than prostitution. On the other hand, you can be fairly discreet about hooking and not many people have to know about it. You can't be discreet about porn. It's on camera and accessible by anyone, anytime, forever.
Upward mobility. Very few female porn stars ever move onto becoming non-porn actresses, and often their other career prospects are limited due to the stigma attached to being a porn star (watch for example, After Porn Ends). Admittedly there's not much career-specific upward mobility from a hooker (owning a brothel maybe?), but if you have the skills and training, you can become  pretty much anything else after you've been a hooker. Especially if you've been discreet and your job prospects are not threatened by your hooking job.
Control over who you fuck. I would imagine as a high-end hooker you have just as much - if not more - control than as a porn star over who you work with. The porn industry in any given place is fairly small, your number of available partners is limited, and you can only say 'no' so many times. As a hooker, you can choose to say 'no' to clients you don't like, there will always be plenty more to say yes to.
Control over how you fuck. This is key for me. More important than having control over who you fuck is having control over how you fuck the people that you do. In porn, there is a very specific way you fuck your partners - the way it looks good for the camera. But what looks good for the camera is often not what feels good for women. You have to get into uncomfortable positions, often on awkward and/or hard furniture, and fuck in strange angles that don't hit your spots. You can't close your eyes and feel the experience, abandon yourself to the pleasure - you have to keep your eyes open at all times and make eye contact with the camera or the partner. You get pounded really really hard with huge cocks for a really really long time (and these days, it seems, ever more brutally). You have lights in your face and 10 people standing around, telling you what to do, how to do it, stop, go, stop, go. I come easily and a lot, but it seems like it would be very difficult to have an orgasm on a porn set. And indeed, I rarely see female porn stars having orgasms in porn. A lot of the time they just look like they're in pain, and trying really hard to make their moans of pain sound like moans of pleasure.
As a hooker with a client, on the other hand, you have much more control over how you have sex. Sure, there is some level of negotiation, or doing things that are not necessarily your cup of tea, but it's just you and the client, and you don't have to worry about camera angles. You can close your eyes and enjoy yourself. I bet it would be much easier to come that way, even if you're fucking someone who you're not super attracted to. Not to mention, most of the time, it probably lasts a lot shorter than photo shoots and it's a lot less rough.
I see three areas where porn is a clear winner, but not by much.
Legality. Porn is legal, prostitution is not. Which is really dumb, but given our current laws, porn will not get you arrested, hooking might. However, not many high-end hookers get arrested. So if you're smart about it, you could get away with it.
Physical safety. Porn is probably safer since it's highly regulated, but high-end escorts rarely get beaten or otherwise physically harmed by their clients. So while hooking is more dangerous than doing porn, it is not necessarily particularly dangerous. And there are ways you can be smart about it: screening clients, safety services, etc.
Partner attractiveness. Porn certainly wins this one. As a hooker, you'd end up fucking less attractive men. But if I'm fucking for money, I'd rather fuck less attractive men with whom I can come, than hot men with whom I can't come.
So all in all, if I had to have sex for money, I'd rather do it in private, without any record of it, on my own terms, with condoms, and in ways that would allow me to come.
How about you? What would you choose? Why?
Pervertically Virtuous | August 1, 2013 at 10:30 am | Tags: porn, prostitution, sex work | Categories: Life According to PV |


Pervertically Virtuous in response to Nero:
Having worked on the periphery of both industries (briefly, in a non sexual role) I have to say I’d agree with you 100% on every point. The risk of physical assault is greater as a prostitute, but you’ve covered off how to protect yourself. The biggest danger in either job is your mental health – [...]
yep, given our society’s hangups about having sex for money, mental health is a risk, but I would think both professions are similar in that regard… doing it to fuel a drug habit sounds like an awful awful lifestyle.
heh, if prostitution were legalized and regulated, the IRS wouldn’t have a preference for porn :)


Pervertically Virtuous in response to Sheena:
Definitely agree with you, I would rather hook than do porn. I think I’d have more independence and choice regarding what I do/don’t do.
that’s what it looks like to me too, yeah.

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