Sunday, November 6, 2016

Discussing Butt Sex ~ Does Anal Sex Hurt?

Does Anal Sex Hurt? It was click bait but I watched it anyway - and it was interesting! Have a look and see if you agree:


What I found interesting was that everyone on the panel who had bad experiences was happy to share, but the one person who admitted to enjoying it was quite circumspect. They were almost afraid to talk about it because it is still a taboo subject. In 2016 - WTF?!

For what it's worth (I'm no expert, my wife and I tried it a few times but mostly it was something she endured, not enjoyed) here is my 2¢ worth:

  1. Foreplay is the key, since they need to relax. If they're not relaxed their sphincter is not relaxed and it aint going in. Get her pussy wet (or his dick hard) first and then some light finger play on their ass and butt hole.
  2. You MUST use lubrication!! Proper lube, not 'let me spit on your butt hole' like they do in porn. If you don't use lube the friction will make it very painful for the receiver and they won't want to do it again.
  3. Use the right position. If you're trying it from odd angles in odd positions then of course it isn't going be that great for the receiver. Once you've become butt fuck aficionados then by all means experiment a little but until then take it easy. Missionary (with the receivers knees pulled up to their chest) or doggy (preferably with the receiver propped up over cushions or something else for support) are good starters. Some prefer it on their side with their knees pulled up to their chest.
  4. Enter slow and let the receiver get used to you (especially if they're an Anal Virgin) before you start moving. And then move slowly to allow the receiver to get used to you again, before you pick up the pace. Don't start pounding them hard unless they ask for it.
  5. Use a lot of foreplay and maybe keep it going as you butt fuck them. This means maybe a vibe on her clit or a reach around for him as you butt fuck their ass. Let them guide you, the goal is to make it pleasurable for them too - so that you can do it again.
  6. Communicate. Talk about it first so you both know what is going to happen. Don't 'accidentally' get the wrong hole and then keep going. If the receiver wants you to stop then fucking stop - now! Talk about what any issues there are and maybe you can try again if you're lucky.
  7. For most people receiving it will hurt at first, but if they stick with it they may find they relax a bit more and the feeling becomes quite pleasurable. If they don't get to that point then stop, it is not worth going any further. And if it really hurts, right from the beginning, then they aren't relaxed enough to start with and their sphincter is wound too tight. Try even more foreplay next time. (Some women don't like to receive until they've cum already themselves)

Do as I say, not as I do, since I failed on a few of these myself when we tried anal and the results were not good. The better an experience you can make it for her (since straight women are the most resistant, despite what erotic fiction they read) the more likely you are to be able to try again, and make it even better the next time. If you poison the well the first time she's unlikely to want to drink again a second time, is she? Ditto for any women wanting to peg their man.

UPDATE: This has been sitting in my drafts folder for months since I couldn't get my head around the idea of me giving advice on something I wasn't good at! The above is all theory, not practical!!

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