Tuesday, April 18, 2017

TMI Tuesday: April 18, 2017 ~ Sexual Revelations

Back in my day there was no 'online' - my porn came via Penthouse magazine © image by Suze Randall

1. When did you see your first naked women that was not a family member?
~ I was about 10 years old and walking along a beach in the Fall. I was walking along the road next to the beach and it started to rain so I started to hurry, back to the diner where the rest of my family were. As I started to jog I saw an open trash bin at the side of the road and something caught my eye. It was the crumpled pages of what I would later learn was a pornographic magazine. It was probably Penthouse because I could see spread legs and close up images of a vagina. Naturally I stopped, stepped back, and stared at these images. It seemed like I gazed for a while but I know it was probably fleeting. I remember being mortified at what I saw - WTF was that gash between her legs? Why was she being forced to strip and show her breasts? Why were her legs so far apart?
All this was fascinating but the rain was falling steadily now so I raced back to the diner. Years later I would realise 'she' hadn't been forced to do anything and was just posing ubiquitously.

2. When did you see your first naked man that was not a family member?
~ My father played football when I was very young and after the game they would adjourn to the clubhouse and shower. I followed him in there once and was shocked at what I saw. They were all shapes and sizes and all horribly bushy. I was pleased I had no hair, but even then I suspected I would grow some eventually since all the grown ups had hair 'down there'. 
I wonder what today's young boys would think in a similar situation? Some of the guys would probably be shaved or manscaped so a young boy might not realise everyone grows public hair. (Although these days they probably wouldn't allow young boys anywhere near the men's showers!!)

3. What were the circumstances of each situation?
~ Answered above! (This is why my posts are so long - ask me a question and I'll tell you more than you asked)

4. At what age did you first witness sexual nudity? Was it online or in print?
~ I'm not sure of the exact age but it would have been my early teens, after puberty. We didn't have 'online' then, we kicked it old school with 'print'. It was probably a Penthouse magazine and probably a Suze Randall shoot (her images are imprinted in my brain). I recall being pleasantly shocked to see a pictorial with a naked man in it. She was lying on a sofa and he was standing by her head. His semi erect penis was hanging down and she had her mouth open, as if about to receive it.
Years later I would learn that this was to get around censorship laws. At the time you couldn't show an aroused penis, nor could you show a sexual act. So they had to pose the models looking like they were about to do something (ie about to swallow or about to touch it) and the man's dick had to be less than perpendicular. If it pointed up it was obscene, if it didn't it was not obscene.

5. Sexual revolution – When was yours OR It hasn’t happened yet?
~ As a kid all I read about was the 'Free Love' of the Swinging Sixties and 70s. It seemed like everyone was fucking back then and I had missed out. I recall being tangibly sad about it, as if my generation (of girls/women) had 'wised up' and given up on being the sexual playthings of men. Years later I would realise that there were just as many people fucking in the 80s as there had ever been before (if not more) and I had just failed to apply myself properly.  It turned out my female friends in High School were blowing or fucking their boyfriends - they just weren't telling me about it.
Once I learned that women wanted it too I made up for it in spades.

Bonus: What’s the best sex advice or sex education book you’ve ever read? (Yes, it must be a book, could be online but a book)
~ I'm not sure if it was the best or the worst but it was the most influential. And it wasn't an educational book (sorry, but guys don't read that stuff) nor was it Playboy Advisor, which has actually given good advice at certain periods of history (usually when it had a female editor who tried to give good advice, as opposed to the male editors who would try to be funny and give 'manly' a.k.a. sexist advice).
When I was 15 I secretly read my mother's copy of The Happy Hooker by Xaviera Hollander. Her frank descriptions of her sexual escapades had a profound impact on me, both mentally and physically. When she described how she 'learned' to masturbate at a young age and then discovered 12 different ways to get off it totally rocked my world. Like I said, it was a revelation: women wanted/enjoyed it too!
I wrote a whole post on this in my previous blog (that Wordpress saw fit to terminate due to it's pornographic content) so read this story instead.

Double Bonus: Yesterday I tried my hand at erotic fiction for the Masturbation Monday meme [link]. It's not great, but it's a start.
  Triple Bonus: For an update on my wife's erotic reading see the end of Sunday's post OPP - How Women Use Porn


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  1. I loved your detailed answers on this. I might have to look into that book, as I have always been curious about prostitution, etc.

    1. I should probably read it again myself since it's been decades since I read it.
      It's probably badly written 70s prose, pandering to the idea that prostitutes love what they do, because all the clients are attractive men they'd have sex with for free anyway. And great lovers.
      (She wasn't just a hooker BTW)


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