Monday, July 3, 2017

TMI Tuesday: July 4th, 2017 ~ Risk & Judgement

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Happy 4th of July! I'm on vacation so I have no idea if I'll be able to manage the TMI meme this week. Last time I tried doing it with my iPad it was an absolute mess layout and format wise. Since we're gone two weeks I thought it best not to bring my laptop. Our daughter is travelling with us, and were all sharing a room so I'm confident my wife and I will not be having sex for three weeks. 

I tried, the night before we flew out, but by the time I joined her in the bedroom it was lights out and "I'm asleep".  Which is annoying because I knew she'd got a Brazilian that day, so I shaved my beard off, then shaved again that evening, and told her that night (we were at a party, she managed to fit that into her timetable) that I planned to eat her out when I got home.

When we got home and went up to bed she farted around in the bathroom en suite for 30 minutes doing good knows what (getting her makeup etc ready for travel?) which gave me enough time lying in bed to remember I hadn't put the trash out and since we were leaving in the morning why not do it now? Bad move, because by the time I'd done that (and downloaded a few Netflix titles to my iPad) and got back to bed she was 'asleep'.

But she wasn't really, which makes it worse. I touched her shoulder but she ignored me. 
And she wonders why I'm grumpy this morning, as we wait to board.

Anyway, TMI Tuesday has arrived so here we go!

Risk & Judgement

1. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
~ Can't think of anything I'd change since I don't live my life by what others think. Which is why some people think I'm an odd fish.

2. Most recently how did you openly express love?
~ I said "I love you" to my wife. No sex ensued (<--- that's a deliberate LOL, BTW)
3. When is the last time you took a sexual risk? What was it?
~ Every time I try to make love to my wife it's a risk - seriously. If I've judged the moment wrong it goes pear shaped. Trying anal is always risky (so I've stopped), and even rarer is the two or three times (over our 25+ year relationship) I've rimmed her. My wife never gives positive feedback, she just remains silent. Just initiating now is a risk. {sad face}

4. What sexual acts bring you the most pleasure?
~ Anal (giving) and rim jobs (receiving). But any sex is good sex - honest! - I'm grateful for what I can get.

5. Is there a belief or attitude that interferes with you creating or pursuing your sexual fantasy?
~ Yes. Reality never matches fantasy for most people, including my wife. What reads well on a page (or looks good in a porno) may not feel as god IRL. I was actually thinking this today, before you asked: lonely women with may fantasize about sex with a stranger, but that fantasy lover is always a Brad Pitt or George Clooney type. Never the accountant from down the hall who doesn't go to the gym.

Bonus: Tell us something you need to stop wasting time doing.
~ Obsessing about why my wife won't have sex with me. It's menopause - her libido has gone.

Double Bonus: Friday, Oh God it's Friday and Sex last Thursday AND Friday

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Happy TMI Tuesday!


  1. Men do love giving their women anal - my next post on ifsexmatters is about anal -
    but i would really like your opinion regarding my behaviour 20 yrs ago

    Should have been more understanding?

  2. That's because it's pretty much the 'last taboo'. Of course, once you've popped the anal cherry then what? Sharing/group sex?


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