Saturday, July 1, 2017

OPP: How To Start Exploring Exhibitionism in NYC?

This is not one of my old posts, but one by Pervertically Virtuous (scroll to bottom for more info)
(FYI: some links in this post are live)

Pervertically Virtuous posted: "I'm getting my girlfriend into D/s, collars, the whole deal. Swinging might be immediately out of the question, but I'd love a place to take her and show her off. Fuck her in front of someone and otherwise plant the seeds of exhibitionism. I'm thinking ad"

recovered post by Pervertically Virtuous

Ask PV: How To Start Exploring Exhibitionism in NYC?

by Pervertically Virtuous

I'm getting my girlfriend into D/s, collars, the whole deal. Swinging might be immediately out of the question, but I'd love a place to take her and show her off. Fuck her in front of someone and otherwise plant the seeds of exhibitionism. I'm thinking adult theaters or bookstores would be a good place to test the waters. Problem is I haven't explored that scene in NY. Can you think of anything off the top of your head? And even more generally, if you have any suggestions for like minded couples looking for fun, I'm all ears.
There are many things you can do in public without having sex with anyone else but your partner (as in swinging). Here are a couple of suggestions:
  • On-premise swinger parties
Although you can fuck people other than your partner at swinger parties, you are not required to do so by any means. You can - and many couples do - just fuck your partner while others are watching. The watching part cannot be escaped, people will be watching, although you typically have a choice between different levels of privacy - in some areas of the club/party you may get a serious audience; while in other areas there may be only a few voyeurs.
In NYC, you can choose between going to a regular swinger club (i.e., a club that is open all week long as a swinger club) and going the various types of swinger parties that get organized at various venues by various promoters and at various time intervals (weekly, monthly, bi-monthly).
Regular swinger clubs in NYC:
- Le Trapeze
- Checkmates
- Bowery Bliss
Some on-premise swinger parties in NYC:
- Taste 
- One Leg Up - School of Sex (Behind Closed Doors)
- Sexxy Mofo
- Red Light Events
- Devious Delights
And once you get into the lifestyle, you'll start getting invited to various smaller, private events that are not advertised publicly.
Check out SwingLifeStyle for announcements of parties, or the many swinger party and venue reviews by the NY Swingers couple (they provide info about venues and parties on Long Island, as well as NYC).
  • On-premise BDSM parties
Same rules regarding playing with each other versus playing with others apply as at swinger events. Since you mentioned some interest in BDSM stuff, these might be more appropriate for you two, as there you could show your girlfriend off in a more D/s-y way, collars and all. Although it is worth noting that many swinger events allow for some light bdsm, and you may often find a dungeon-room at such events. These days there are also a few events that cater to BOTH swingers and kinky people.
Please note that many BDSM parties don't allow sex (oral, vaginal, or anal), so make sure you go to one that does. A good rule of thumb is: If it's at a bar/club, i.e. if they're selling alcohol, there is no sex (damn US laws); if it's at a private loft, a dungeons, etc, sex is most likely (but not necessarily) allowed.
The best way to find out about on-premise BDSM parties is through FetLife.
  • Adult theaters
Once upon a time (long before my time here), NYC was teeming with adult theaters, with Times Sq being THE go-to area for these (and other unsavory types of entertainment). When Rudi Guiliani decided to clean up the city of all its vices, he killed them all, and Times Sq is now tourist-central, a place where no self-respecting New Yorker spends any time near. As I understand, there are only 2 or 3 adult theaters left in the city (Kings Highway CinemaBijou CinemaCinema Odyssey (?), and they cater almost exclusively to gay men and can be very very seedy. This is definitely not the place to take your girlfriend to.
If any of my readers have any info on another still-operating adult theater, please please let me know!
  • Porn shops with glory holes or peep show
This might be the closest you could get to your original adult theater/bookstore idea. I hear there are a number of places in Chelsea, but they all cater exclusively to gay men. It seems like there's still one or two on 8th ave around Times Sq (48th or so), and one on 53rd street and 2nd where apparently straight men go to get sucked off by gay guys. Anyway, I've never done been to a place like this (you're giving me ideas now!), so I can't be of much help about whether that would work.
I've been trying to Google research this for an hour now, without much luck. If any of my readers have any info on any porn shops with glory holes, peep shows, or anything similar, please please let me know!
  • Good ol' outdoor sex
NYC is a big city, and although sex in public is illegal in NY, it is legal for women to be topless. So there's a lot you can do to explore exhibitionism outdoors, like a park at night, a deserted parking garage, a rooftop...?
Hope that helps somewhat, and good luck in your sexplorations!
Pervertically Virtuous | July 1, 2013 at 10:21 am | Tags: adult theater, bdsm, exhibitionism, play party, porn shops, public play, swinger parties | Categories: Ask PV, Sex Stories 
In the process of recovering my own old posts via email I discovered some of P.V.'s. Like me, her old accounts have been terminated, and she seems to have disappeared from the internet. This is a damn shame since I consider her one of the best sex bloggers I've ever had the chance to read and follow. I'm reposting her old posts as a historical archive, and if she ever returns to blogging I'm happy to hand them back to her.
To be clear: the copyright on this work is hers, and remains with her - I didn't write it and I make no claim to it.

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