|From my post: This reminds me... Image source: via Instagram|
1. During sex, would you rather be blindfolded or blindfold your lover?
I'd rather blindfold my lover, and I have. If she wanted to blindfold me that would be fine (she's never asked or suggested it) but it's not something I would ask for. I'm a guy ie very visual! I like to see what's going on - which is why I often turn up the lights (albeit dimmed).
I have done things to him that I wish he would do to me: bite him, pinch his nipples, tighten my grip around his neck, pull his hair, blindfold him (he would not let me tie him up) and used toys on him, touch his ass and apply pressure on his asshole (he would probably kill me if I inserted anything in his ass). He would pretty much just tell me he doesn’t like those things and he would like me not to do them - with the exception of the hair pulling.
6. If I weren’t so afraid, I would _____.
____ blindfold my wife, tie her to the bed, drive her crazy with soft wet kisses before forcing her to orgasm via a vibrator she can't escape, and the I'd fuck her. Probably in the ass too, but I'm not sure how I can if she's tied to all four corners of the bed. Maybe if she's cum so hard for so long she'll be delirious and I can release her ankles and lift her legs...?
...Anyway after watching '50 Shades of Gray' we had a brief discussion about how lame it was and a very tentative discussion about 'doing that sort of stuff'. She couldn't even say it out loud, and yet I know the majority of her erotic reading titles are in the BDSM or Forced Submission genres.
She became very aroused and we had really good sex, so I suspect she did indeed imagine she was with someone else - but I did not ask her about it afterwards. And she certainly wasn't 'fessing up to it now, a year or two later!
2. Ever blindfolded your partner for sex? - or have you been blindfolded during sex?
~ I used one of those airline blindfolds once, with good results. Not a regular thing though. When I pulled it out she asked "what's that for?" and I told her it was because I just wanted her to lie back and relax. And so she did, plumped up on her pillows. I ate her out slowly and she came hard.
I have a few fantasies I haven’t tried but want to - I’ve been with my wife 25+ years and time is running out! Unfortunately my wife seems to think sex should happen spontaneously and therefore if I was ever to say ‘how about we try anal this weekend?’ the answer would be “Hell No”.
Unfortunately you can’t just spring all of that on someone IRL so I guess it will never happen...