Saturday, February 17, 2018

OPP: #SoSS

May More is about half way through the Feb PhotoFest challenge.
We're being treated to a lot of boobage, as you can see here!
The #SoSS meme is a roundup of favourite blogs I’ve visited this week. In order not to duplicate what others have done for #SoSS (Share Our Shit Saturday) (or Sunday if you forget/run out of time) I’m going to give you links to some of their older stuff - because I think their complete blogs are worth reading. Click the links for the full stories, because these are just excerpts.

Screw Taboo ~ "Ethical Non Monogamy"

Primarily a sex toy review space now they do still have a lot of discussion/opinion content within the blog as well. Including this piece:

My sex and love life might not be conventional but it works for me and those I am involved with. I believe the only way a relationship style can be wrong is if it isn’t right for the people involved.

I firmly believe people are happiest when they are living in accordance with their morals and allowed to be (or discover) their true self. It sounds so simple and yet too often I have allowed myself to be shaped by other people, losing myself in the process. In the past I have had partners judge me harshly for my sexual choices. They have either decided I am a bad person or else, even worse, tried to suggest I was coerced or unable to make my own choices. When someone repeatedly treats you like you are weak and incapable of making choices it can reduce your self esteem. My self esteem hasn’t always been very secure (and still isn’t) so that kind of treatment had a profound effect on me. I pushed aside my desires and attitudes and tried to be “normal”. The result was that I was unsatisifed and felt ashamed of the things I was suppressing.
 
Having multiple sexual partners but no romantic relationship might seem strange but it works for me right now. I am always totally honest about the fact I am not looking for a romantic relationship and explain that I have a regular sexual partner and also a number of less regular partners and one night stands. I take care of my sexual health for my own wellbeing but also for the wellbeing of my partners and their partners. For me, a huge part of being ethically non-monogamous is being safe... [much more]

Lily ~ Dangerous Lily ~ "Fluid Sexuality -or- I’m not Kinky Anymore"

Lily will be already be known to most of you as she is a very strong activist for sex toy safety. Her blog is full of reviews of sex toys and she isn't afraid to call out (and explain why) a manufacturer who is producing something that isn't safe. She also blogs on other subjects too:
A lot has happened in my 6 years here, and a lot has happened with me, sexually, over the last ten years. 6 years ago when I started this blog, I considered myself to be moderately kinky. Over the next few years, as a pseudo-relationship worked its course, I considered myself to be highly kinky. You see, when someone I’m very much attracted to is very much into something sexually, their enthusiasm for it rubs off on me and I suddenly see things from a new perspective. I’m not faking it for them, I’m genuinely exploring previously-unknown facets. Not all have worked out for me. Two attempts at being the dominant one in a sexual relationship failed miserably; the second one succeeded only in making me realize that I was more submissive than I assumed. When those two relationships ended, I didn’t have a distaste for being the dominant one, I just knew it wasn’t my thing. 
But a few years ago, something happened in my personal life that pretty much completely turned me off of anything kinky. I no longer want to tie up anyone or be tied up. I don’t long for spankings, or being controlled–but I still love having my hair pulled, go figure. In fact, this personal rift was so severe that (husband aside) I went from a 3 on the Kinsey Scale to a 5. It is rare indeed that I find myself attracted to someone who identifies as male these days. My sex life with my husband isn’t faltering for it, in fact we’re personally better than ever – my love for him is very strong, and our sex life is great. But if things were to go back to being open again? I’d only be interested in female-identified or genderqueer people. My porn preferences fall in line with this, too. I quickly scroll past the random hetero-based sexy image in my Tumblr dashboard, rushing to the next all female one. I’m finding that my attraction to... [much more]

Eugene Robinson
 ~ 'Wild Card' - "The Problems With Public Sex"

I'm a sucker for advice columns in magazines and online, and I'm a big sucker for Sex advice columns. Eugene Robinson writes for Ozy.com - send him an email if you're game. Better yet, send it me and I'll tell you what's what!!
DEAR EUGENE: I agreed to go to a sex club. Partly to spice things up, partly because it sounded interesting. We did what you said, and talked about ground rules before. We decided to watch; if we got hot enough, we agreed we’d have sex. With each other. So we were sitting watching another couple have sex. They had drawn a crowd. My man sat on my right. On my left was a guy I didn’t know who, after chatting with us, stood up and started masturbating. He was closer to my face than I would have liked. It was a little weird, but I didn’t feel threatened. But my man whispered to me, “Go ahead if you want,” right as the guy laughed and shrugged and said, “Hey, it’s a sex club.” It felt like some weird collusion between the two of them, that they suddenly wanted me to be the field of play on which they could work out some mutual fantasy that I was not privy to. I did fellate the stranger a little, but since then I’ve been put out with my man. It wasn’t what we agreed on. We’ve been together for about 14 months. Should I move on? — Name withheld by request
Dear Anon: If I were a psychiatrist — and remember, I am NO KIND of medical professional — I would suggest that because you were not pressured into fellating a stranger, your pique might be because you did fellate a stranger... [much more]

2 comments:

  1. Very interesting post by lily - will have a good look round her blog ;-)

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  2. Thanks Nero, I'm aware of Lily but I think I need to read more! I absolutely loved the 'agony uncle' - shall check that out more often too! Great sharing!

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