Tuesday, March 13, 2018

TMI Tuesday: March 13, 2018 ~ Sexy Secrets

"I've just bought a sexy nun costume and I want you take me into that church and defile me"

1. Do you have a special place you like to have sex regularly?
~ Anywhere is good for me. My wife prefers the bed in our bedroom. Or so she says when I suggest anything 'spontaneous'.

2. What’s the hardest thing you’ve ever done? The scariest?
~ The hardest thing was breaking up with a girlfriend I was in love with, for no reason other than I thought there was nowhere else left for us to go except to get married - and I didn't want to get married. In hindsight a very stupid reason to break up. In hindsight we would have probably got divorced if we'd stayed together long enough to get married.
~ The scariest thing I've ever done was... well, what happened to Lefty happened to me - last century. Two fun facts: (1) I got into the car knowing I could be facing a beating (I knew I wasn't going to get whacked) because you have to get in the car, otherwise you're a punk. And punks get a beatdown. Or whacked. (2) If I'd seen 'Donnie Brasco' 5 days before I got sent for instead of 5 days after, I might not have got in the car! It was a long 45 minute drive out of the city, let me tell you...

3. Are you annoying?
~ Not really. But I suppose I can be to some people. Stupid people. I don't take fools gladly.

4. A person whom you’ve had “the hots” for a very long time tells you they are super attracted to you. You spend a few hours together and the sexual attraction is overwhelming. You are dying to have this person as your lover. At the moment you are highly aroused, and she wants to have sex with you in a church, would you do it?
~ Yes, no question. I'm an atheist so it wouldn't bother me.

5. While in the middle of the best lovemaking of your life, if your lover asked you to squeal like a dolphin, would you?
~ No, that would be stupid. Is that why it's so good? Because you're tripping? Damn girl, and I thought it was just us.

Bonus: Are you good in bed?
~ A fantastic question and one I was about to ponder in a standalone post but you've beaten me to it. In my mind I am but... what if I'm not? I think I'm good but what if you read my stories (tagged 'We Had Sex') through a different lens? Maybe her back is arched because she's flinching, maybe her grunts are her trying to stifle a scream (and not of pleasure), maybe her dirty talk is her way of trying to finish me off and get the ordeal over with?
I'm not joking. Have been riddled with self doubt lately. Because if I was good in bed we'd be having sex more than once a month, right?

Double Bonus: Here's a question for you, dear reader. A poll devised by me, not TMI Tuesday. It's a question primarily aimed at female readers, but the guys are welcome to answer too. The question (prompted by a comment on twitter) is:
Q1: How long would you like to sexual intercourse (not including foreplay) to last for?
a] 5 minutes.
b] 5 - 10 minutes
c] 10 - 15 minutes
d] 15+ minutes
Q2: How long would you like foreplay to last for?
a] 5 minutes.
b] 5 - 10 minutes
c] as long as it takes to get me hot 'n ready
d] don't stop baby, I love it - even more than intercourse sometimes
Answers in the comments section below please, and if you're feeling bold tell us also how long foreplay and intercourse actually go on for you, usually (ie as opposed to what you'd really prefer)

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Happy TMI Tuesday!


  1. both a long time I say - no seriously sometimes once i have cum i just want to stop! I dont like intercourse to go on too long 8 mins maybe - I like all the other stuff - whipping spanking sucking you know

  2. A1: 15+ minutes - I would say I like intercourse to last around 20 minutes. Anything more than that and I start to get sore.

    A2: I like foreplay to last for as long as it takes to get me hot 'n ready, which is usually about 15 minutes or so. I enjoy foreplay but I like being fucked more. My husband enjoys foreplay a lot, so it is rarely less than 30 minutes and sometimes goes on for 1-2 hours.

  3. A1: anywhere from 10-20 minutes. I too get sore after too long.

    A2: as long as it takes, but also i don't like it to stop. Sometimes it can be more fun than the sex.

  4. Firstly Nero, I love my OH dearly and he is good in the sack, but you're probably getting more action than him, so infrequency in your household is more likely linked to your wife's changing libido, work pressures and the fact that she gets some satisfaction from her reading matter, so don't go doubting your sexual prowess!

    a1 D - I dont think I could even satisfy myself in less than that!
    a2 C - but I think I'd would most likely need at least 15 mins, unless I'd been reading something very hot beforehand, in which case I might be doing all the foreplay on him,getting me hot to trot!
    Ideally I'd allow 30 mins to an hour for good sex. If OH wants something quick, I just do fun stuff for him.

  5. 30 min/1 hour is foreplay & sex combined.

  6. First of all, the term foreplay needs to die a fiery death. As soon as the activities become sexual in nature, you're having sex. The idea of PIV sex being the only activity worthy of the name "sex" while any other activity is relegated to "foreplay" is misogynistic at best.

    Ahem, sorry for the rant.

    We usually have sex for an hour - sometimes longer, rarely shorter - and that involves a combination of oral sex, fingering, hand job, penetration, playing with toys and anything else that strikes our fancy in any order we feel like. I don't time the separate components that make up our sex session; as long as we both have enjoyed the session I count it as successful. PIV sex is never the only type of sex we have.

    1. A good rant! I agree with you re foreplay vs sex, as do most of the commenters so far.

  7. Great answers people. I own reply to you all individually because every answer is correct.
    FYI - this question was motivated by a comment I read on someone else's blog post where a woman said she couldn't take more than 4 minutes of PIV sex. That set me thinking...

  8. Great questions and they made me thinking a lot! Here are my answers:

    A1: I don't have a specific time: I simply would like it to last as much as we feel like. I love long session of foreplay but the quickie too has its appeal. Then, I think guys in particular shouldn't be pressured to last longer than they can in that specific moment.

    Q2: In a certain way I share Isabelle's point of view: as a couple we are not used to distinguish intercourse from other sexual activities that fall under the "foreplay" name. To me it's all sex! Again, sorry but I don't have a specific preference about how long I want it to last: sometimes we love having the classic lazy, "sex-all-day" Sunday together, while other times we just want a quickie.

    Great answers guys!


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