Tuesday, May 8, 2018

TMI Tuesday: May 8, 2018 ~ The Meaning of...

Yeah, I can't read the last two lines either!
1. What makes you, you?
~ That's a question I can't answer myself. I am what I am, because it is what it is. Some women have said I'm an Empath, but they're hippychicks. Others simply say I'm empathetic. Given I recently published a close-up photo of a bare pussy on Twitter the other day I'd say I'm probably losing my juju. 

2. Do you care more about doing the right thing or doing things right?
~ I care more about doing the right thing but I also believe in doing things right.  The latter is a goal, and not always achieved. The former too, I suppose. Doing the right thing is most important IMO.

3. What is sexual freedom? Do you have it?
~ Kind of, in a way. Since 'freeing' myself of the angst of worrying about why my sexlife with my wife is so woeful a burden has been lifted. I just masturbate when I want to now (when I can, of course) so I'm not so sexually frustrated.

4. In your romantic relationships, is trust more important than love?
~ I'd guess many would say they go hand in hand. I'm not that evolved. When you're young and in love you trust your partner implicitly. But once that trust has been broken you became a bit more guarded. And if that mistrust festers you become jaded and cynical. That's how some marriages die - not with a bang but a whimper. 

5. Your life, is it more of a dream or a nightmare?
~ A bit of a nightmare at the moment but we'll muddle through. Family issues. I'd tell you more but its TMI. (Suffice to say its more than just me not having sex with my wife)

Bonus: What is the last romantic thing you did for someone?
~ I can't really think of anything since that stuff has kinda withered on the vine. I've made gestures but they seemingly go unnoticed or unappreciated. Christmas, birthdays and wedding anniversaries seem more important to me than my wife. In recent years my wife almost forgets our wedding anniversary, which leads to farcical situations [see here]. You'd think she'd put it into her iCal along with all the random birthdays of random people she's got in there, but no. Speaking of birthdays, that's become even more farcical over the years. See what it's devolved to here.
And before anyone says "You've just got to make the effort Nero, break down her walls" let me say 'been there, tried that'. My wife is the type who will nonchalantly ask "why didn't you...?" either during or just after I've tried doing something romantic. She likes to give 'notes'.

Double Bonus: Hey, check out the links I just gave you - that's enough! And BTW, by 'notes' I mean my wife likes to give suggestions or thoughts on how something could have been improved. Not thankyou notes.
I'm aware I'm possibly making her sound like a b!tch but if you're thinking that you'd be mistaken. IRL she's very popular and everyone loves her. So now you're thinking if that's the case then maybe the problem is with me, but you'd be wrong again. As my wife herself says, if everyone else knew the real her (and how she really felt about them) she'd be toast. And that's why she loves me she says. Because I understand her and know what she's really like and I put up with it. Well of course I do - the sex is awesome!


  1. At least she's honest and you put up with her. Wishing you the happiness (and sex, because sex is great) in your relationship, but if not, at least you don't sound resentful or bitter, just honest

    1. I’m worried I come across as bitter and resentful, when I’m not.
      Well, I try not to be! But it (no sex) has required an adjustment to my thinking.


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