|Are you finding you need to dial it up more to get to that climax?|
Miss Scarlet : Miss Scarlet Writes ~ Masturbation Through My Lifetime
My first sex toy was a flesh-coloured vibrator purchased from an Ann Summers shop in around 1999, before internet shopping had made a real impact. It looked like a cock, and I used it on my clit to bring me to orgasm. The vibrations weren’t very powerful, but were adequate to get me off .... my next sex toy ... was a g-spot rabbit from Lovehoney, purchased in 2011. The shaft didn’t do much for me, but the vibrating rabbit ears worked their magic on my clit after a few minutes or so.
A couple of years later, I learned about wand vibrators. I liked the look of a mini wand from Lovehoney. This tiny, powerful toy soon became my new best friend; at that time, the first setting was powerful enough to bring me off very quickly. However, before long the lowest setting no longer had an effect, and I moved to level two. After a short time, I could only orgasm on the highest setting. I occasionally tried to masturbate with my fingers, but I found that this no longer had the same effect, and trying to reach orgasm manually was hard work.
[A couple of years later] I acquired a Doxy massager. After using the Doxy, the mini wand became redundant as it had no effect on my clit whatsoever, although I continued to use the rabbit ears to achieve orgasm if it was inappropriate for me to have the loud Doxy out to play!
Since 2016, my clit has been battered and bruised by many powerful sex toys. What were deep and strong vibrations to my clit a few years ago are no more than a light tickle nowadays. My fingers may occasionally stray to my pussy, but they deliver pleasant, yet mild sensations – certainly not enough to achieve a toe-curling orgasm.
Over the years, my clit has gradually become used to quickly reaching orgasm through the use of powerful sex toys, including my latest acquisition, a Doxy 3 . My clit no longer responds as well to human touch (mine and that of others), nor will it produce a mind-blowing orgasm at the mere touch of a gentle vibration like it used to. Although a probing tongue still hits the spot with explosive results.
It seems, for me, reduced sensitivity to manual stimulation is a natural effect from using powerful toys. This is something I have been pondering on for some time, and I am interested to know if others have a similar experience... [more]
My point is: maybe it's part of the aging process that we all require more and more stimulation to get aroused. Is that what explains the rise in more sexually adventurous actives like threeways, group sex, sex clubs, fetishwear, fetish clubs, polyamory, etc? Everyone just need a little something more now to get their fire started?
This was the comment I made on Miss Scarlett's Masturbation Through My Lifetime blog post:
I wonder if it (higher levels of stimulation required as you get older) is an issue we (sex bloggers) need to look at? Is it a part of the aging process? Is it just a 'muscle memory' problem ie your clit is so used to 'that' after X years it now doesn't respond the same?
For years (some) women have complained about how hard it is to get/keep their man interested in sex after a few years. Some question why they have to wear sexy outfits or do sexual gymnastics just to keep the spark going in the bedroom.
Does that mean men suffer the same problem (higher levels of stimulation required as you get older)? Does that explain why men seem to escalate the type/level of porn they use when masturbating?
Are women better placed to deal with the issue because there are a multitude of sex toys available to them, whereas men have quite a limited range of toys available for self stimulation?
Maybe you'd like to click the link and leave your own comment, or maybe you like to write your own blogpost on the subject? As a man over 50 with a wife with low libido I'm well aware of how the body 'slows down' at a certain age. I'm getting close to that age myself when I'm in the key demographic for Viagra - how long before I find things don't work the way they used to and I need 'extra stimulation'? How long before I'm popping the Blue Pill and cranking my Verge up to '10'?