Saturday, December 15, 2018

#SoSS - The Ax falls on #Tumblr

At the beginning of December Tumblr announced a big change to their policies regarding 'Adult Content' - namely that it would be banned as of December 17th. Tumblr claimed it was no real change, just a 'tightening up' of their existing policy but anyone who's had a Tumblr account knows that that is BS ('bullshit'). There was a huge number of people posting topless or nude pics and those, we were told, would no longer be allowed after December 17.

Which lead to a small avalanche of people departing for Twitter, since that seems to be the last major social media platform that will let you post adult content (albeit with some caveats). The departure led to its own hashtag, #TumblrRefugee, as account holders let their followers know where they were going ie their new Twitter address.

The ax fell early it seems - #FreeTheNipple!!
For my part I started dumping all the x-rated posts I had in my Tumblr queue, which led to a slight problem in my Twitter account since I'd forgotten they crossposted there. So, lots of porn on my Twitter feed now! It was exasperated by me thinking I'd switched off the app that crossposts my stuff, when in fact I hadn't.

Anyway, for everyone interested in 'censorship' (hence the #SoSS hashtag for this post) you will be thrilled to know that Tumblr have jumped the gun on their own policy change and started early.

I've just looked at my Tumblr account and discovered that Tumblr are already hiding my posts on the grounds that they contravene their new policy. Interesting. I thought it was happening December 17 but apparently not. They started it this morning - maybe their porn police bot doesn't know its the weekend?

I guess I'll find out on Monday what has happened to my Tumblr account. Maybe it will still be there - with posts that no-one can see - or or maybe it won't. No-one is really sure if they're going to terminate our accounts or slap a permanent shadow ban on us.

Time will tell.

For anyone that cares, my Tumblr account is NeroTumblesHere and my Twitter account is NeroTweetsHere. You are currently reading my blog at NeroBlogsHere. If any of you are new to social media might I suggest something that no-one told me: try to choose a name that is available on ALL the major social media platforms. Having a different name for each is a really dumb idea, since people expect you to have the same 'address' everywhere.

My user name on Instagram is there's another one as well!


via Instagram

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Tuesday, December 11, 2018

#TMITuesday ~ December 11, 2018 : Random Stuff

Hello there again. Welcome to TMI Tuesday blog and questions about... Random Stuff

1. Which do you make more of phone calls or text messages?
~ about 50/50. But I make very few of either.

2. Before making a phone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
~ No, because I am not 13 years old and about to talk to a girl.

3. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

  • Travel
  • Our daughter

4. Name three things about which you and your partner completely disagree and often causes arguments.

  • Sex (but we don't discuss that anymore)
  • Money (save it or spend it?)
  • Who's in charge (not much discussion on that anymore either - its her way or the highway)

5. 74 percent of couples bought a brand new mattress when they began their relationship. As you embark on a serious relationship would you request your significant other buy a new mattress or would you buy a new mattress if the s.o. asked you to do so?
~ I've only had one and yes we bought a new mattress. If I had a new partner and she asked me to get a new bed I would say "why, what's wrong with this one?" If she said "because you and your wife used to sleep/fuck in this one" I would think she was crazy. I would suggest we 'exorcize' the demon of my previous relationship by holding a sex marathon in it to purge the spirits out.

Bonus: If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about your future, what would you want to know?
~ Very spooky since today someone did an Astrology reading for me. I had to give my date of birth, where I was born, and time of birth. The results struck a few nerves but about half way through I realized I was born at 7 in the morning, not the evening, so maybe that meant what he told me wasn't right?
I asked him about my wife but he was very circumspect since he was BFF with my wife's friend! (That's how I got the free reading). He did say that my wife had (and would continue to) cause me most of the suffering in my life. There's more to it than that but it was fascinating. I might get another one (with someone who speaks better English) using the right time of birth. And with someone who doesn't know my wife!!

Double Bonus: Did you read The Online Affair?


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Happy TMI Tuesday!

Sunday, December 9, 2018

#MasturbationMonday ~ The Online Affair

In the Real World you don't get to construct your Dream Lover - people come as they are and they may not be perfect.

Last week a ghost from the past came back to revisit me. A skeleton that I'd forgotten was hidden in the closet suddenly leapt out - and scared the bejesus out of me!

It was an old blog, one I thought had been deleted long ago. Actually I just forgot about it entirely, I hadn't deleted it, so the fault is mine. And to make matters worse it wasn't just a blog, it had various social media accounts attached - namely Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, and a Photobucket account.

It was a blog from 2009 and it was about an online affair I was having. An intense sordid affair that didn't last long but burnt brightly before exploding like a Roman Candle (a firework) - leaving only a flickering flame, before that too slowly fizzled and died out.

So how did I rediscover that old blog?

I saw the URL for the facebook profile in the browser history on my wife's phone last week.

Yeah, let's pause a moment to reflect on that.

My wife was looking at a facebook profile I'd set up way back in 2009 - in the name of the person I'd set the blog up with (not my real name of course, duh). And if one went to that profile one would see blog posts from 2009-2010 crossposted to Facebook. A blog called The Online Affair no less!

A blog that shared the entire online relationship between two people who were married to other people.

FFS how stupid was I to put up that shit up online? Honestly, what.THE.FUCK.was.I.thinking????

Naturally as soon as my wife went to bed I rushed to my computer and spent a few hours recovering my old Gmail account, and then the passwords for the various social media accounts, and then I promptly shut them all down and deleted the blog. It's gone now. If my wife searches for it, or the name it was under, there's nothing. So there's that.

But other questions remain, the most obvious one being 'how long has she been aware of this?'

Which leads to the next one: 'and why has she never ever said anything?'

Regular readers of this blog are possibly now saying "Aha Nero! This explains why you haven't been having sex (or only having sporadic sex) with your wife for so long!" but there's more to it than that. Much more. I allowed myself to be seduced by this woman online (and to be very clear: I was a willing participant) because even back in 2009 I wasn't having much enough sexual intimacy with my wife.

You may not have noticed it, but for the past three months my heart has not been in this blog. I have had difficulty writing anything because I always come back to "what's the point? nothing has changed - you keep reliving the same problems that have always existed." And while many of you have been sympathetic, I totally understand how easy it is to lose interest with someone who complains all the time about the same damn problem(s).

For me it's like I've been living in some sort of goldfish bowl, only able to remember the most recent past. I keep thinking/hoping things will change when in fact this problem with my wife has been reoccurring throughout our entire marriage, continuously. Coming in waves, yes, but those waves are constant now.

I had already started to realize this blog was now really just the same ol' same ol' a few months ago. If I look back to November 11, 2015 (when I wrote Yes, this is my first post... WHY?) I realize I'm still in the same boat, still furiously trying to bail out the water so the ship doesn't sink. And even this blog (that you're reading now) is merely a continuation of one I had previously set up on Wordpress years earlier. [It got terminated due to 'pornographic content' (aka the same XXXX images you see on Twitter and Tumblr all the time) (albeit that Tumblr are nixing those too as of December 17, if you hadn't heard)].

And so now I've rediscovered yet another even earlier blog from 2009, also based on the same underlying problem: what do I do when my wife physically doesn't want have sex (as much) with me anymore? We've tried talking it out, we saw two different 'marriage counsellors', and yet nothing really changed. Honestly, the online affair was merely a symptom of the real problem. I foolishly thought I was being clever by only allowing myself to get involved with someone in cyberspace ('it's not RealWorld so its not cheating') and convinced myself that it was really just masturbation with modern technology.

But of course it was more than that because human emotions are involved. It's not at all the same as jerking off to some cam girl at $1.99 a minute. Or whatever they charge these days.

Anyway, today I sit in limbo. I've decided not to second guess myself. I'm not going to get stressed/sick  wondering what my wife knows, when she knew it, and when is she going to mention it? In the back of my mind I think I've seen that URL in her browser a long time ago. Just like when I saw it last week, I only got a fleeting glimpse of it then because she walked back into the room quickly (and when I looked again much later there was no history of it).

If she wanted to raise the subject she would have, just like if she wanted to tell me why she stopped wanting me physically/intimately she could have done that a long time ago too. She's had every opportunity, but she simply prefers/chooses not to discuss things.

Looking back on our 25+ years together I know we had good sex when we had sex. Like most people we had a lot of sex when we were younger, and less when we were older. I would have liked to have addressed that as partners, but we never did, despite the therapy sessions. But we continued on and we endured, like many other long marriages.

And as I look back at the past, and speculate on the future, I wonder what will happen when our daughter goes to University next year. If I'm to be honest I've always imagined that it would be when my wife ditched me and did the Eat, Pray, Love cliche: 'I'm going to travel the world, solo, I need to find myself.' It hasn't actually happened yet so maybe I'm getting ahead of myself, but if I'm to be totally honest then...

...I could have started a fourth blog on this recurring issue (the one that has sparked all the blogs) back in 1998.  Which is what is so depressing* - my life is going in circles and nothing really has changed. I've just gotten older and fatter. That's the wealth privilege I guess: my life is just as mundane as yours, I just get to eat out 4 nights a week if I want to, and travel more. I am generally very comfortable, and it's hard to give that up to find something else.  Besides, I am generally happy (*not depressed) with my life, my only discontent is with the lack of sexual intimacy with my wife.

So what to do? I can't demand/force her to have sex with me - and neither do I seek to. She is not my slave. So the mental adjustment must come from me. I have to make that mental adjustment just as I would if she'd become disabled in a car accident and physically wasn't able to have sex anymore.

I hope I'm not being overly melodramatic (or offensive) in saying that but take a moment to consider your own situation: if your life partner (yes, I'm assuming you have one in this scenario) said they still love you deeply but made it clear they no longer had any interest in you sexually (but would not say so expressly) then what would you do?

You might say "I will force the issue, I will demand we talk it out like adults, I will let him/her know how I feel because communication is the key to a lasting partnership" to which I reply "Bravo!" Good for you, you've started a dialogue. But your partner's most likely response is to apologize, agree there's an issue, and promise to try harder to meet your needs, because they love you, and yes the sex is great when we do it so really we should try to have more of it. And then he/she will try harder but sooner or later you will be back in the same rut. And you might have another discussion, and the promises will be remade, and the cycle continues until finally you stop bringing it up because its pointless because nothing is really changing.

I'll stop talking now because I myself am in a loop again - I could keep talking all day about this. Maybe I'll continue with a Part 2 on Wednesday, if I feel like it, or if I feel I have anything more to say. Or maybe not. Either way you may contribute your own views in the comments section below...


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#goodmorning - Time for my Sunday morning dance class 🕺

via Instagram 
Goodmorning - Time for my Sunday morning dance class 🕺 
Just part of my regular #sinfulsunday routine! 😎 
(No, that's not me, that's my Dance Instructor! Yes, I'm having trouble focussing) 
#flashdance #whatafeeling #80s #boombox #neroblogshere

Saturday, December 8, 2018

#SoSS ~ An image from my miscreant youth!

via Instagram

An image from my miscreant youth! I’m pretty sure this was in my spankbank back when I was much younger 😈 she seems so so familiar! 

Repost from @penthouse - “We have some new Vault images up on the site” 😙😋😍- Kate Simmons, September 1978 Pet 

#neroblogshere #penthousepet #centerfoldmodel #sexymodel #nudemodel

Friday, December 7, 2018

#FetishFriday with Saphira Lolita

She looks quite petite doesn't she? Fetish Friday with @saphira_lolita ©️🗝
#fetishmodel #rubberfetish #fetishwear #latexfetish

Repost from Instagram © Saphira Lolita

#SoSS - The Ax falls on #Tumblr